Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Where do I start...

Wow, I know I've been slacking in the blog department, but in all fairness my computer has been having issues ( needs to be cleaned as I'm sure I've got a virus) and typing out a big thing on my phone is a PITA..so I'm sneaking in here from work to update.

My last post was in May..so here's a little update on what's been happening since May.

For starters, a friend of mine confided in me after a few glasses of wine that she was having an affair on her husband, also a friend of ours. I told Sean about it because #1..I was dumbfounded that this was happening as we were always led to believe their 'lives' were perfect and #2..I don't hide things from Sean and this was no exception. We both told her on numerous occasions that she needed to decide what she was going to do and do it. It wasn't fair to either her husband or the other guy to be doing this. We both knew that no matter how this would end, it wouldn't end well. We didn't tell her husband what was going on because even though he is a friend too, we didn't feel it was our place to 'step in'

Well her husband found out because on Father's Day while eating their supper, the 'boyfriend' called the house and told her husband what was going on. I guess he too was fed up with waiting for her to make a decision. After this happened, the husband started talking to Sean, he needed a friend to lean on and that's exactly was Sean was. We knew that if the husband found out we knew, he'd be even more devastated so we didn't tell him. Sean never revealed anything to him, but just gave him a sounding board and gave him as much advice as he could. The wife told the husband that she'd broke up with the boyfriend 3 weeks prior to this phone call. I have proof that this isn't the truth either, but have not said anything to the husband as if yet.

So, back to June...on June 10th Sean fell and broke his hip. Just when the light at the end of the tunnel was getting brighter BAM. We certainly know how to deal with what life throws us, so after a 5 day stay in the hospital , Sean was able to come home and recover there. There was no surgery involved, just taking it easy and letting it heal on it's own. He's almost back to 100% now. Anyway...to mix two stories together..on the Wednesday Sean was in the hospital which was 4 days before Fathers Day, my friend asked if she could stop in to the hospital with her boyfriend to meet us. I told her NO, that Sean wasn't up for meeting people in the pain he was in. NOW....that was only 4 days before the boyfriend called the husband and let him know what was going on, to which the wife informed the husband that she had broke it off 3 weeks prior.

Anyway, LONG STORY short.....the affair continued after the phone call but a few weeks later, the boyfriend showed up at our friends house, after the wife went to work and told the husband every single detail of the affair including that both Sean and I knew about it. Now, the husband won't speak to either one of us...I would imagine he feels betrayed as do we. I've had the occasion to have a couple chats with the boyfriend....only because the wife gave him my phone # and he's filled me in on quite a few things. I'm not sure whether to believe it all, but even if I believe 50% she was even lying to me, so why she bothered to even tell me in the first place is beyond me, but I can tell you I wish she hadn't. But everything happens for a reason. I can understand that her husband feels betrayed by us not telling him but I'm not sure what the right way to go about this would have been.

What ticks me off now about this situation is that my friend told me they are working on their marriage and concentrating on each other which is why they haven't talked to us much. Funny thing is, we seem to be the only set of friends they are ignoring. We know for a fact that the husband talks to other mutual friends and that they go camping with other friends so even that story is a lie, I'm not really sure my 'friend' would know the truth if it bit her in the ass. Nothing we can do about it, except live and learn. I'm not even sure if put into this situation what path we'd choose...I am thinking either way it would have ended the same..with the loss of two friends, or people we assumed were friends.

SOOOOOOOOOOO back to Sean..he's healing nicely and is feeling much better. He's scheduled for an MRI in September then the doc will give him the OK to return to work which is awesome. A friend of ours has offered him a job, which if it works out is all Ontario work (no more huge phone bills) and home guaranteed every Friday night for the weekend. The money is actually better then the long haul too so we are hoping it'll work out.

I had my mammogram a couple months ago too, I had found another small lump in the left side, but after some tests it's been regarded as just 'dense' tissue ..so that's good. Of course they're keeping a close eye on me, but for now I'm still cancer free..TWO YEARS BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just a little more then two weeks to go and I'll be participating in the Weekend To End All Womens Cancers in Toronto. This is my second year and likely my last. It's sad to say, but the first year lots of people sponsored me because I guess with me recently going through it, people donated quite freely. I also think times are getting tougher for people which I can  understand too.

OHHHHHH more news.... My daughter Krystal is pregnant again....Noah turned 1 in May and she's due in March. How exciting, another grand baby!!

So, I think that's pretty much all the important stuff...for now.

Keep Smilin'